Don't Be Too Nice!

Whether you realize it or not, everyday you are teaching others how to treat you. 

 

 

You teach others how to treat you on the basis of what you will tolerate. If you simply ‘take’ abuse you are sending out signals that you will tolerate abuse.

So logically when you begin to send out the message you won’t allow abuse and back it up with effective behaviour your abusers will not get the pay-off they are receiving which is manipulating you. But if you just take their actions against you, you are teaching them to use you as a dumping ground
http://personaldevelopment.suite101.com/article.cfm/teaching-people-how-to-treat-you#ixzz0zRp237qk

 

 

I heard a great radio interview on my drive home last night that really brought this issue to my attention.  Of course I already realized it, but I had never stopped to give it much thought, and I'm guessing I'm not the only one.  Teaching people how to treat you is a great tool for self esteem help.